single income family

i officially have a husband who does not work nights anymore

...or at all.

a few months back dane and i had a brief discussion about him quiting his job. we have a lot of random discussions so i didn't think much of it at the time. a few weeks went by and dane casually brought it up again. once i realized he was serious about this....well you all can imagine how i reacted. i felt the need to talk about it with him all.the.time.

this was really scary for me at first. we had FINALLY gotten to a stable place. it took us a little less than a year to pay off the wedding and some other debt so we were actually able to buy things again without having to have a 5 minute look at our back accounts. it was nice. it was really really nice. i know that's selfish but i didn't want to give that up. but once i realized that dane would never have even brought this up unless it was something he felt strongly about....my mind started to change.

so why have dane quit??

dane has been working nights most the time we've been together. when we lived back in california he would work 4pm to 2am. yuck! once he found a job here in flagstaff he had to get another night job because of his school hours. for the most part he handled it really well.... surprisingly well actually now that i think about it. these past few semesters have really been brutal for dane. i mean to go to school full time, work nights, he has been trying to get back into shape AND still have time to play with me. lets just say he wasn't getting much sleep.

so what were the options?

1. i tell dane to suck it up. i tell him that everyone has to go through tough times and we will just deal with it. i know he is tired but oh well we have bills to pay.

2. i support my husband in any way i possibly can. i tell him that getting him through school is the most important thing and that we will survive and figure it out.

i obviously picked # 2. 

i just saw him soooo tired and cranky. he won't admit it but he wasn't happy. to see him like that and knowing that i can help...i had to. we are very fortunate that we don't have a lot of bills, so right now in our life we can do this. we can live off a single income. we obviously don't foresee this as a permanent situation but it will give dane some time to really concentrate on finals and focus on getting healthy as well.

the bonus?

i now have my husband home every night. not having to rush through dinner before he leaves. getting into bed together that is normally a rare thing we only did on the weekends. 

i think this will work out really well <3